I’ve been single (divorced) for most of my thirties. That fact can hit my heart with a thud and almost, make me take pause to seek what’s wrong with me.   But, I know better.   Ladies or gentleman are you single and out there looking, still?   Don’t take it as a failure. Reframe it: You’re distilling with each encounter down to the particular elixir of man or woman that’s just right for your taste.   Do you know what you want? Do you have past relationships that still filter through your mind? Do you have “what if’s” floating about?   Sift through the characteristics, the good parts that stuck with you, for the bright shining beacons of what it is that…